Sunday, I did something that was against the norm. I sat down with James and I told him my feeling for him and how much that I love him. I told him I wanted to give him a ring for Christmas, but I wanted it to be more than just a ring. I want to give us a little more than the title of “Boyfriend and Girlfriend.” I wanted commitment. He knows that I will either never legally marry or will be several years before we financially can. Now, this post is title Commitment Ceremonies & What are they? Have you ever heard of a Commitment Ceremony?
What Are Commitment Ceremonies and Why Should We Consider One?
In all honesty, a commitment ceremony means something different to everyone. A Commitment Ceremony could look like any other wedding, just without the marriage license. A Pagan ritual called a Handfasting, is also another avenue. A Commitment ceremony is one that does not involve the state or government in any way.
After watching my brother marry and divorce the same woman twice, and with the divorce rate rising, I won’t lie, I honestly don’t think a piece of paper will tell James and I we love each other any more than we do now. In the state of Texas, we do have something called a Common Law Marriage, but you do have to sign a form provided by the county clerk and you must agree that you are married, cohabit, and tell others that you are married. There is also a Declaration of Domestic Partnership that may be filled in Travis County. Both of these are legal and include the state or government in the relationship. Travis County has more information on their website and also include a sample agreement. We may have a Domestic Partnership later down the road, for now, A commitment ceremony is what we would like.
What Will Our Commitment Ceremony Look Like?
Our Commitment and Exchange of Rings will be just that. Our promises to each other and an exchange of rings. We will not be doing a big party. It will just be us exchanging words on Christmas Morning and gifting each other with the rings. What do the rings mean to us? Our bond and our love for each other. That is all. No fancy dress, church, or 100’s of people looking on. That does not matter to us. Christmas morning will be the morning that we will remember for the rest of our lives together as the morning that we started on a new journey of something more.